I have three children ages 16, 12, and 6. When my son was in seventh grade, he participated in an abstinence only program. I attended the session for parents who wanted to preview the presentation first. Although I am completely aware of teenage sexual behavior, I thoroughly support abstinence only education. The program presented facts and visuals of STD’s, interviewed many teenagers about their experiences with sex, explained biological processes of pregnancy, sexual behavior, and transmission of diseases. Importantly, the program was holistic in presenting sexual behavior as an expression of love in a committed and mature relationship, not just as an instinctual act. I feel the program elevated the self-worth and choice making ability of the individual. Resources, tools, teenage thought processes, and techniques to make critical “in the moment “decisions were presented in an engaging way. The truth is, if your only goal is to reduce teenage pregnancy and STD’s, yes abstinence plus , which is really comprehensive sex education , may provide a means to that goal by educating teens in contraceptive use. What about the long lasting emotional and relational effects, even if a pregnancy or STD does not occur? Yes, the numbers can show “success” in terms of avoiding some negative outcomes of teenage sex, but these can also be very real and damaging experiences as one is forming values and expectations for future relationships. The portion of an abstinence plus program that truly promotes abstinence is a very small percentage, and is negated by the focus on contraceptive use. It is reported that on average only 4.7% of abstinence plus page content is devoted to the topic of abstinence and 0% to healthy relationships and marriage (Martin, Rector, Pardue, 2004). Over twenty eight percent of the page content is used to describe and encourage contraceptive use. This computes to six times more content to promote contraceptive use than the goal of promoting abstinence (Martin, Rector, Pardue, 2004). However, I do think everyone should be educated on the biological process, success, and failures of contraception. I feel this should be done thoroughly and factually in a mandated health class, not alongside abstinence education. If you really feel this is the best goal for all teens, you cannot degrade it by assuming it won’t work and then offer abundant contraceptive use information. Alarmingly, abstinence plus programs are essentially encouraging teen sex by not discouraging it and giving a false sense that as long as it is “safe”, it is a normal and acceptable activity.
“While comprehensive sex-ed curricula do not overtly encourage teens to engage in sexual activity, they do not really discourage it. The focus is on reducing the risks of STDs and pregnancy among teens. Abstinence is presented as one technique for avoiding immediate risks, but the predominant emphasis is on using contraception, especially condoms. For the most part, teens are not urged to avoid sex per se, but to avoid sex without contraception. As long as the teen feels “comfortable” with the activity, protected teen sex is not criticized, but is presented as commonplace, healthy, and largely unproblematic. The decision to use contraception during sex is almost always presented in a very favorable light, while teen sexual activity itself is rarely questioned or criticized.” (Martin, Rector, Pardue, 2004 )
One poll showed that 94% of adults and 92% of teenagers feel society has a responsibility to send a strong message to teens to wait until they are graduated from high school before engaging in sex (Martin, Rector, Pardue, 2004) Of the nine abstinence plus curriculum reviewed (942 pages), not one stated this view. Of the same curriculum, only 9 weakly written sentences encouraged teens to wait before they begin sexual activity (Martin, Rector, Pardue, 2004). I and many others feel teenagers in high school are not mature enough to engage in sex. Do you think they are conscientious enough to purchase condoms, store them correctly, have them available and use them (correctly) every single time? Do you think the majority of girls are ready to educate themselves on their monthly cycle, ovulation, and side effects of birth control? Are they ready to monitor their health, and watch for sign of STD’s? Are they completely aware of the effects of alcohol and drugs on contraceptive use and efficacy? In conclusion, knowing that some teens will not remain abstinent, parents can make the choice to provide contraception for their child or the medical community may provide education and resources as well. I think schools as a whole should not offer abstinent plus education, but teens should have access to help if they choose to have sex despite best efforts to encourage them to choose abstinence.
References
Martin, S., Rector R., Pardue M.G. (2004). Comprehensive Sex Education vs. Authentic
Abstinence. The Heritage Foundation. Retrieved November 22, 2009 from